A somehow conservative african christian’s take on homosexuality| Should I befriend gay people?


Ever since I was a child, I was taught that homosexuality is a terrible sin. It is disgusting and plain evil. It is so evil that God destroyed the whole city of Sodom for practising it. I had heard stories of how young people in single sex boarding schools engaged in homosexuality. I had heard of how seniors lured juniors into becoming homosexuals under the pretense of taking care of them and being their school fathers and mothers. I heard nasty stories of how girls used unriped bananas as dildos to engage in nasty lesbian sex. I too was disgusted and hoped to God that I don’t fall into temptation. I didn’t.

Now, I’m 18 years and very confused.  I have gay  blogger friends who are genuinely nice people. I’ve watched videos that talk about how God actually isn’t against homosexuality. I’ve also read articles and scriptures that say homosexuality IS WRONG. PERIOD…POINT BLANK. I want to know what God’s take is on the issue because I love Him and do not want to displease Him. Should I still associate with gay people?

This morning, I went to sell my dad’s books at a book fair and saw a cute baby girl wearing a pretty hijab. This reminded me of how Christians and Muslims in Ghana have coexisted so wonderfully. Some Christians join Muslims to celebrate their Sallah and even make sure they have their fair share of Sallah meat. Some Muslims also celebrate Christmas with Christians here. I’ve seen a Christian girl cheerfully wear a hijab because she “wants to know how it feels like”. I have seen a Muslim girl dance to Christian gospel songs. This unity is something to be very proud of as a country. Can we live with gay people the same way?

Come to think of it, there are many gay Christians and Muslims. How are they able to hold on to their faith despite the fact that most of those they share their faith with believe homosexuality is abominable? I don’t know. What I can tell is that people choose to interpret the Bible and Qur’an subjectively.

Remember Lot, the man whose family was spared from the destruction of Sodom? (Read Genesis Chapter 19 of the Bible if you don’t know). I want to be like him. According to the Bible, he was the most righteous man in the whole of Sodom and Gommorah, the city of evil. I want to still be able to please God in these evil times. The men of Sodom surrounded his home wanting to sleep with God’s angels. The Bible doesn’t exactly tell us how his relationship was with the “evil doers” of Sodom. However, I have a fair idea.

Genesis 18: 7 (NIV)

and said, ‘No, my friends. Don’t do this wicked thing.

The most righteous man in Sodom called the men who were most likely homosexuals what? His friends. I’m not saying Lot was necessarily besties with them but he didn’t curse them and show hate. Many gay people have been subjected to so many unthinkable forms abuse by some “so-called” Christians. Lot even had sons-in-laws from SODOM. These sons-in-law were also part of the men who wanted to sleep with the angels. Yep, Lot’s sons-in-law to be wanted to engage in gay sex! You don’t believe me? Here…

Genesis 19:4 (NIV)

Before they had gone to bed, ALL OF THE MEN from every part of the city of Sodom-both young and old- surrounded the house.

So yes, there were no exceptions. Alllll the men were part and this obviously includes Lot’s sons-in-laws. If they were part, does that not suggest that it wasn’t their first time? Upon all that, Lot still invited them to flee with him from Sodom to escape the wrath of the Most High. (Genesis 19:14) Should I assume that Lot’s sons-in-law weren’t part of the men outside his door? No,I won’t.

Revelations 22:18 (NIV)

I warn everyone who hears the words of the prophecy of this scroll: if anyone adds anything to them, God will add to that person the plagues described in this scroll.

How much more adding to a portion God’s word?

So what at all am I saying? All I’m trying to say is that Christians should stop treating gay people like they are demons. Stop abusing them and making them feel less human. Stop driving them to suicide. “Love your neighbour as yourself” Why will you masturbate to lesbian porn but feel justified to torture lesbians? Why will you sing songs clearly talking about fornication, but will stand up and attack gay men? Why will you who loves and cherishes your ps4 above all else (idoltry) have the right to speak against gay people? Why will you who lusts after hunky men and gorgeous slay queens condemn gay people? You believe those fornicating straight couples with cute pictures on your timeline are goals but gay couples are disgusting? (James 8:7 “Let him who has not sinned, cast the first stone”) I think the Bible doesn’t support homosexuality but who am I to judge?  This Bible doesn’t teach me insult and bully people who sin differently. All sin is sin. Lying, stealing, fornicating etc doesn’t make you better than the girl who likes a girl or the boy who likes a boy. It’s your life, it’s your choice just as it’s their life it’s their choice to marry whoever they want.

PS: Homosexuality isn’t just about sex. It is about one’s attraction to the same sex. A girl can have sex with a girl and not be gay and vice versa. Also, this is my honest opinion on homosexuality. I’m not an activist. I will welcome all opposing views in the comments section. Be nice or else, I’ll delete your comment. It’s not hard at all. I was homophobic But now I don’t see the point.



8 thoughts on “A somehow conservative african christian’s take on homosexuality| Should I befriend gay people?

  1. alibolsover says:

    I love the way you have presented this article 🙂 I think we have to respond in a way that Jesus would and that is to ‘love thy neighbour’. Love the sinner, not the sin. Who am i to judge? Only God can do that.
    I think historically the ‘church’ has not dealt well with this issue. When I was at uni years ago, one of my house mates told me she was gay and she became a Christian. I didn’t judge. She thought I might but I loved her because she was my friend. She struggled to reconcile her homosexuality with her new found faith because she believed she’d been born gay. I think the body of Christ needs to be better prepared to deal with this issue. X

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    • GirlfromGhana says:

      Exactly, as it is written, “Judge not and ye shall not be judged, condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned.” It must be difficult to be gay and a Christian. I only pray that the Holy Spirit grants her the Spirit of discernment to know and do what is right. The “church” really hasn’t dealt with this as you said. Some avoid discussing this issue all together.
      Thanks for reading. 🙂

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  2. The Teenage Economist says:

    Hmm, Interesting thoughts. While I most definitely agree that we should love and come along side of gay people to try and help them realize that they are living in sin, I believe that the Bible makes it very clear that you cannot be both a Christian and a practicing homosexual. Stand strong in your faith and do not succumb to the evil one.

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