Because being skinny is not any easier

long-hair-1732114__480.jpg

‘I’m beautiful because Mama says so,’ I exhale staring at the black near-anorexic image in the mirror and tie my braids in a bun. Maybe if I keep repeating that, I’ll eventually believe it. Suddenly, it dawns on me that Kwenin is waiting in the driveway so I hurry up and meet him with a hug, not too tight. He doesn’t stop babbling about Kafui’s new instagram picture. All his comments are like little needles pricking my healing wound. ‘She’s thick and curvy and everything I can’t be,’ I concede. Continue reading “Because being skinny is not any easier”

Independece Day-2 (Resurgence) : Movie

I’m becoming a lazy blogger guysss. I mean, look at my content. Anyway, never mind. I just finished watching the second part of Independence Day in the middle of the night and trust me, it wasn’t a pleasant experience, at first. The beginning of the movie got me thinking about Doom’s day and how there might actually be extraterrestrials who may be thinking about waging war on our less-advanced planet.( I usually don’t bother about that for the sake of a good night’s sleep. If you know what I mean. 😜 ) 

This movie is actually great. It’s not as scary as I thought it would be, like at all. ( I could sit through it so you can!) For real, I’m extremely sensitive to blood and pain and all those nasty things horror movies contain, ugh) Okay so back to the movie. It’s a great movie. I’ve already said that. I like the way mankind just united. There was nothing like color,race, religion or whatever. It’s great to see that in movies, at least, when reality fails us. I couldn’t help admiring Liam Hemsworth. (Miley is lucky. Very) The black guy was also very cute. 

Will Smith was in the first part. I need to totally watch it. I enjoyed this movie and would suggest it to everyone. Just don’t watch it after midnight.

Okay it’s 1:37 am.

Goodnight guys.

Life update: long vacation + new music favourites

We’ve been on vacation for almost a month and I’m still at home. I haven’t really done much except sleeping, listening to a few songs here and there, watching movies and sleeping again. This is bad, I know, but I’m still trying to figure out what to do. Last year I was an intern at a law firm and this year I didn’t really feel ready to go back immediately after school. (The internship wasn’t bad, honestly. I’m just being lazy.) I went to pay them a visit last week and the lawyers seemed happy to see me. I’m actually thinking about starting next month, God willing. Sigh.

I’m totally in love with Dua Lipa’s Lost in Your Light ft Miguel and Mø’s Nights With You. These songs are literally my songs for the vacation. Oh and DJ Khaled’s I’m the One too. Did I almost forget to mention John Legend’s Surefire? That song is my new favorite song! Why didn’t I state it first? (Really Adoma?) And the official video is just beautiful. I looove the story behind it. I’m going to say no more. Aahhh

My agenda for this holiday period consists of two goals.

  • Getting my Driver’s license
  • Getting my passport

Yeah. 

  • Interning for a month at least

So make it three. I’m now going to get my passport after 18 years. The whole world must be ahead of me. (Ignore this very unnecessary hyperbole)

How is your vacation going? Are you traveling or doing nothing like me? Do you know/ like/ love/ hate any of the songs I mentioned? Let me know!

Cheers☺

Adoma

Bride for Rent (Movie Review)

Hey guys,

This is my first movie review and I hope you like it. I’m not exactly a fan of Filipino movies or series even though I’ve watched a few. In my opinion, they’re usually one-way. You know, almost cliché. Maybe I’m yet to watch the exciting ones but this is my observation so far. (Their advertisements on the other hand are incredible! Aahh) 

Anyway, a friend of mine gave me this movie to watch and I just felt that I had to do a review of some sort. Let’s get on to it!

First and foremost, I think the movie is very predictable. I literally guessed the plot of the movie and I wasn’t wrong. I didn’t have to be a genius to know that the two main characters were going to fall in love and get married. (Talking about cliché)

Okay. So, the movie is about your typical I-don’t-believe-in-love-and-commitment guy who hired a girl to act as his wife so he could get access to money in his grandmother’s trust. Long story short, his grandma found out, used the girl to teach him a lesson and in the course of that they fell in love and got married. Yeah, it’s that simple. 

What I loved most about the movie was the humour. The movie was so funny (that’s what you do when you have a very predictable story line, no?) The attempts by some characters to speak English was hilarious. It was even adorable at a point. The guy’s friend Javier and the female lead Rocky especially added so much to the humour.

It was a romantic movie alright, but I can count, without using all my five fingers, the number of times they kissed in the movie. So yeah there was no sex, none at all. I really like that. I mean, if the movie had been made in Hollywood that would obviously not be the case. Sigh) I like that they didn’t bring love down to just kissing and sex. They actually waited till marriage. (Goals!) 

I loved loved the scenes where they inserted real couples talking about how they’ve kept their marriages etc. It was lovely.

But but but…in the beginning, I didn’t quite enjoy the acting. It was like they were trying too hard. (Maybe it’s just me) As the movie went along though, it became better and totally enjoyable. It ended well, I must say.

This is actually a movie I’ll like to watch thrice. (And I don’t even like watching movies twice) It’s very relaxing and great to watch with the whole family. However, I’m still going to give it three stars because you can’t use an obviously Filipino man to act as an American dad. That was a no no because I’m pretty certain that if they had searched hard enough they would have found a real American to play the role. I mean, there are Americans in the Philippines, right?

A virgin’s (ie. my) letter to her first.

Hey you! 

You’re most likely my first boyfriend, preferably Mexican. I’ve always wanted to lose my virginity to my husband on our wedding night with rose petals all over the place and some cool blues playing in the background. You know, all that corny cliché stuff. 

But if you’re not my husband, that’s okay. Uh…on second thought no, it’s not. I mean, I’ve kept my womanhood tight and lips sealed to all those who have tried to kiss me for 18 years and more! (It’s only one person but you get my point, right?) My heart is still unbroken for YOU. So you sure as hell have to be my husband first. (I’m old school too so I’d rather wait till marriage)

Anyway, know that I’m scared. I might probably cry before or better still after the sex because it means a lot to me and I’m a sick crybaby. Showing you my body, my nakedness, and allowing you to look fully at all that I’m insecure about should make you understand that I love you. Also know that I trust You too: a lot. That’s what scares me but never mind. 

I hope you find me beautiful. Even with the stretch marks on both butt cheeks and the darker shade my butt insists on having despite all the scrubbing I’ve done. Even with my slender body and not-so-voluptuous behind tell me how much I’m out-of-the-world gorgeous because I’ll foolishly believe you.

Be gentle, take your time and don’t rush the moment because if I decided to lose my virginity to you, I’m not changing my mind. I may be a virgin but I’m not naïve at all, trust me 😉 . Make it worth the wait. Take care of my heart and body because now it’s yours too. 

Nana Adoma + whatever your surname may be.

What the June 3rd disaster taught me.

I can’t believe it’s been 2 years already.

Girl from Ghana

Follow my blog with Bloglovin

June 3rd 2.jpg

I was in class when we heard the news. I was in class with 35 other girls, some of whom had parents in Accra where the incident happened. Now it’s called the June 3rd disaster. Sometimes, being in boarding school can be a pain. We didn’t have access to the news except the bits and pieces we got from the newspapers that come in quite late. Our teachers were our only sources of information at the time. My English teacher showed the whole class pictures of the incident on her phone. We saw the numerous burnt cars which had people in them. We saw the charred bodies of people who were once aunties and uncles. We saw the black distorted Shell filling station with the cars and buses that went to take shelter there. We saw things that made some girls cry.

View original post 511 more words

Song Challenge: Malibu- MIley Cyrus

Hello peepz,

I’m doing the song challenge again. I’m really not following the rules but oh well..

I like today’s song because I’m so happy for Miley and how far she has come. The lyrics are really genuine. I hope you enjoy it. I may not be a Smiler but this is a really great song! Give it a listen.

Suicide is a crime in Ghana! Mental Health Awareness Week

 

Hey guys,

Today, I’m going to be discussing mental health in Ghana. This is some sort of tag by the blog, The Indian Avaaz and I was happy when Gracie tagged me to do this special post to help create awareness about mental health. Honestly, I know very little about mental health. This is because it is not something that is taken very seriously where I come from. Until you’re walking down the streets screaming and talking to yourself for no reason, you’re fine. Schizophrenia, Social anxiety, depression, ADHD, Multiple Personality Disoder, PTSD, OCDs are things I know very little about. Thanks to the internet and blogging, I’ve learnt quite a lot. But I still don’t think I’m in the right position to say much about Mental Health. I live in a country where some people think it’s okay to say “Who kills herself over a boy?” or “That’s not even serious enough to merit suicide.” or “She jumped from the fourth floor? That’s way cooler than the other girl who just hanged herself.” Continue reading “Suicide is a crime in Ghana! Mental Health Awareness Week”

5 Common Mental Disorders Explained

Something for Mental Health Week.

lifesfinewhine

Mental disorders/illnesses are a range of mental health conditions that affect your mood, thinking, and behaviour. A mental health concern becomes a mental disorder when ongoing signs and symptoms cause frequent stress and affect your ability to function. The following are descriptions of some common mental illnesses/disorders.

Multiple Personality Disorder/Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID)

This is a severe condition in which two or more distinct identities or personalities are present in- and alternatively take control of- an individual. The individual also experiences extensive memory loss. Usually a primary personality carries the individual’s given name and is passive, dependent and depressed. When in control each personality may have its own distinct history, self-image and identity. The alters’ characteristics including name, reported age and gender, vocabulary and predominant mood usually contrast with those of the primary identity. The various identities may deny knowledge of one another, be critical of one another or appear…

View original post 403 more words

My poisonous saccharin [Short Story]

sofa-1838133__480.jpg

“Hey, I said get out! Dammit, shut the fucking door behind you!” Jeffery barked at me from behind his laptop. Since the beginning of the week, this is the fifth time he’s asking me to leave his room and today is only Wednesday. I left with my half eaten pack of rice and backpack. I’m used to his offensive and abusive remarks. It’s my fault. I brought it upon myself. I shouldn’t have laughed when Derrick teased him. I’m his girlfriend and that was wrong. It doesn’t matter if Derrick is his best friend and he was just joking. I shouldn’t have laughed with Derrick, period. I stood behind the door hoping that he’ll try to call me back at least. But, he didn’t. I was sorry. Continue reading “My poisonous saccharin [Short Story]”

Day 3- Oceans by Hillsong United

Hello people,

I’m still doing the song challenge.

Yesterday, I couldn’t post and I’m sorry for that but I assure you that today’s post is going to make up for it. Since it’s a Sunday, I decided to post one of the greatest gospel music of all time. It’s really an amazing song. I’m a Christian, if you’re not aware. It’s one of my favourites and I hope you like it whether you’re religious or not.

SO HELLO EVERYBODY I PRESENT TO YOU OCEANS BY HILLSONG UNITED.